O.K.- Another song title for you. But, it really did fit this time (and I really hope no one involved reads this blog-LOL). My oldest child asked for some advice, which I'm sure will not be happening all that much in the *near* future, as she is almost 12, and I'm pretty sure I thought (when I was 12), that my mom was SO!-HORRIBLY NOT SMART I would never need her advice. Anyway- back to the matter at hand. She has a really good friend (like BFF, see I AM cool), who she has been friends with for years. This girl is much more touchy-feely than my daughter. She spontaneously gives massages, and stands really close, and likes to give hugs, etc. Not that this is a bad thing, but for my daughter, it is. So she asked- How do I tell my friend without hurting her feelings. This is a tough one.
I know this, because I also, like my personal space. That said, I love a good hug, and let's be honest, we *have* four kids, but I don't like it when people stand right in my face, or touch me for no reason, etc. I'm even on the fence when it comes to a good massage. My wonderful husband on the other hand, loves massages, back rubs, etc. It took a long time to get him to understand that it wasn't personal. The nice thing is, I get my daughter, for once :) Her friend might not get it, if Delaney tries to explain it. And this is definitely a friend she'd like to keep. It's a toughy (is that even a word???). Any advice, warmly welcomed.